The way in which restorative mediation can help is different for everyone. Often times the mediation can help participants to process the event and move on from it. Here, you can read about their experiences.
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“I wanted to reassure him and show him: I’m doing better now.”It’s a dark and rainy morning when Sharon (then 16 years old) is hit by a van on her scooter. The accident and the period after are one big black hole. Over a year later, she feels ready to talk with the causer of the accident through Perspectief.
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“I told the causer of the accident: ‘Move on with your life’”Anneke (63) got in contact with the co-causer of the accident, and said: “Please move on with your life, make something good of it.”
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Sandra: “I don’t want to limit myself, I want to live.”Sandra is the victim of sexual violence and wants to ask questions to the perpetrator. During the mediation she first chose an exchange of letters. After that, a meeting took place under the guidance of a mediator.
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“It was good to see how strong she was”John* is guilty of raping Sandra. During the mediation he explained how, under the influence of drugs, he ended up doing what he did, and that he is ashamed of it.
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Merel had a serious complicationMerel had a surgery for an infection of her gallbladder. The surgery had a serious complication when her stomach was punctured. She kept having health issues for a long time after, and was very dissatisfied about the information she received from the hospital. Through restorative mediation with her doctor, she was able to get answers.
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“The incident affected me too”Simone has been working as a surgeon for years, and felt really bad about Merel’s complication. The mediation offered the opportunity to openly explain what had happened, to answer questions, and to show Merel that it had affected her too.