Experiences of participants

Three teenagers from the same village get into a traffic accident after a night out. The driver survives, but his passengers, a brother and sister, do not. What now? Mother Monique: “Thanks to the mediator we can look back at an open and honest conversation.”

It’s a dark and rainy morning when Sharon (then 16 years old) is hit by a van on her scooter. The accident and the period after are one big black hole. Over a year later, she feels ready to talk with the causer of the accident through Perspectief.

Anneke (63) got in contact with the co-causer of the accident, and said: “Please move on with your life, make something good of it.”

Sandra is the victim of sexual violence and wants to ask questions to the perpetrator. During the mediation she first chose an exchange of letters. After that, a meeting took place under the guidance of a mediator. 

John* is guilty of raping Sandra. During the mediation he explained how, under the influence of drugs, he ended up doing what he did, and that he is ashamed of it.

Merel had a surgery for an infection of her gallbladder. The surgery had a serious complication when her stomach was punctured. She kept having health issues for a long time after, and was very dissatisfied about the information she received from the hospital. Through restorative mediation with her doctor, she was able to get answers.

Simone has been working as a surgeon for years, and felt really bad about Merel’s complication. The mediation offered the opportunity to openly explain what had happened, to answer questions, and to show Merel that it had affected her too.